Ideal Future Husband List

This post should take five minutes to seven minutes to read from start to finish. I know there is such a thing of creating lists for future spouses while people are dating and while people are being single. I do remember creating lists of some qualities and other things for an ideal future husband to have during my teenage years. I don’t remember where I’ve placed those lists. I’m truly blessed daily for meeting Jacob and to be married to him. 

One of the lists that I’ve made was while I was still in High School. After I’ve graduated High School, I’ve made another two lists. Prior to meeting Jacob and while I was going on dates with other men, I’ve learned what I really would like to have for an ideal future husband. 

When a former friend has asked me to write down a list of my ideal future husband to have, and I’ve said yes. It seems an easy task for me to do. I’ve asked her to write down a list of her ideal future husband to have. I don’t know why but we didn’t ever share each other’s lists. I know that I didn’t mention about certain things on the list. Let me share with you several of those certain things wasn’t on the lists and explain to you why. 

I didn’t mention about where I would like to meet ideal future husband because I didn’t want to feel too picky. I knew variety of ways how to meet and where to meet. I feel if I narrow it down to where to meet him, I would be letting other options missed out without giving them chances. 

I didn’t list about what language does he speak in. I knew in my mind that I definitely prefer a future ideal husband who understood English language very well because I know that I prefer to continue communicating with my native language (Australian English language) to him. 

I'm happy to learn a new language but I didn't want to have a language difficulties and have constant misunderstandings during marriage due to having a different language. I’ve already learned some basics of learning German language and I've already learned some basics of French language prior to my eighth grade in school. I’ve also already learned basics of Tongan language when I was eighteen years old. 

I didn’t list about someone who would be with me to attend every birth because I know births can be unpredictable. Considering I was born twenty two days (three weeks and one day) overdue via emergency cesarean (c-section) after my Mum had forty hours labor.  

"A godly man is:
1. Faithful 2. A spiritual leader 3. Respectful
4. A Family man 5. A provider 6. Honest 
7. A good communicator 8. Happy
9. Loving"

My list of ideal future husband was simple but long. Let me share with you some of the things that I’ve on the lists.  However I did list the following; 

* Someone who takes their time to get to know me and not rush into things. 

* Someone who has served a full-time mission and returned home with honor. 

* Someone who would love to share new ideas with me. 

* Someone who would be willing to take me on dates. 

* Someone who supports me into doing photography.

* Someone who would love to go to the Temple and participate ordinances with me. Someone who’s Temple worthy, and holds a current Temple Recommend. 

* Someone who has a career. Someone who has mindset to stay with one career unless it’s absolutely necessary to change career choice. 

* Someone who would love to share their mission stories with me at anytime. 

* Someone who would help me of doing household’s budget.

* Someone who would be on the same page as me. 

* Someone who supports me to be a stay at home Mum one day. 

* Someone who would love to have a family with me one day. 

* Someone who would love to share new ideas with me. 

* Someone who would love me unconditionally.

* Someone who would be trustworthy.

* Someone who would make me smile. 

* Someone who would make me laugh. 

* Someone who will be the main provider of the household. 

* Someone who sets their short-term goals. 

* Someone who sets their long-term goals. 

You may be thinking Jacob and I’ve rushed into marriage. We didn’t rush into marriage. We’ve asked each other over three hundred questions while we were dating. We got to know each other really well. The topics of questions that we’ve asked each other was Spiritual, Family, Finances, Expectations, Your Relationship, Past History and Trust, Love, Intimacy, and Communication, and Social Media and Technology. 

Jacob do make me smile. Jacob do make me laugh. Jacob did serve a full-time mission and returned home with honor. Jacob shares his mission stories with me at anytime. Jacob loves sharing with me new ideas and I love sharing with him some new ideas as well. Jacob and I often do our best to be on the same page on everything. Jacob supports me for me being stay at home Mum. Jacob loves taking me on dates.

Jacob and I go to the Temple whenever we can. I know ever since we've three children who has our attention lot, living over two hours (slightly) from the nearest Temple, and sometimes Jacob works on Saturdays or sometimes something else comes up for Jacob to be unavailable; we go to the Temple as a married couple and participate ordinances together at least once a year. We'll do better to make new adjustments for us to go to the Temple more often. 

Jacob does hold a current Temple Recommend. Both my Temple Recommend and Jacob's Temple Recommend expires the same month in the same year. Jacob seems to be enjoying his current employment despite the days are long and the nights are short and despite of him training new workers. He loves his career path. 

I strongly believe that Jacob does set his own short-term goals and his own long-term goals. Jacob doest love me unconditionally, he's trustworthy, and he does support me into photography. To be honest, I’ve always wanted to marry a guy who has blonde hair, blue eyes, and taller than me. I prefer someone who has close age gap between my age to their age. 

Have you created a list of what you have for ideal future spouse to have (if you aren’t already married)? Do you have to make some adjustments to your list/s to match to your current spouse/partner? 

Stay Tuned.